I can imagine it was quite a shock when you had one child and felt you had no time, energy etc so the thought of two must have filled you with fear of what could have been! I also have a dog so it’d be like 3 kids really I find you just make things work and focus on what’s important, like any time in life. I watch my friends tie themselves in knots over doing all the right stuff and it’s just not possible to achieve perfection. This is not the same but over a 6 month period I was a bridesmaid to 3 friends and organising their hen dos (1 was 4 days abroad in Lisbon, a nightmare in itself!), doing dress shopping and fittings, helping them plan their weddings and dealing with all the drama of family feuds, suppliers pulling out etc, plus planning my own wedding and honeymoon, changing jobs and the company (and getting promoted unexpectedly into a new, much bigger role shortly after I joined that quite honestly I was not ready for at that moment in time), relocating 50 miles away from friends and family, buying a house and welcoming a 9 week old puppy into my life. This was all on top of usual day to day drama of some ongoing health issues I have, life admin etc and I’m sure you feel the same and you just take each day and you get it done, somehow life isn’t easy and looking back you think you must have been bonkers to even consider doing what you did but the reward afterwards is so worth it! Now if I ended up with triplets, then I will openly admit I’m completely done for and what was I thinking! Think I’d need to get the mother in law to move in permanentlyRachyboo wrote: ↑Fri Mar 26, 2021 9:07 pmWow, your a braver woman than me . I was like you before i had my daughter. I had 2 donor egg blastocysts put back on round 7 because i just couldn't keep going through IVF. The clinic strongly recommended against it but i was adamant that's what i wanted so thats what we did. Sadly we miscarried but knowing what i know now after having a child, im thankful every day that they didn't both stick. Having my daughter was truly a massive shock to the system and i had no clue how hard it was going to be. I remember, when we first brought her home - we needed to go to asda and decided we would all go. We started getting ready at 10 am, by 4pm, we still hadn't left the house .
I've always been told that the NHS dont treat embedded infections and i would need to continue paying privately however ive just found out there is 1 NHS clinic running in London so im trying to get a referral to that clinic so all my treatment will be free. At the moment im paying £450 every 3 mths so will be a massive help if i can. Only an NHS consultant can refer you so im waiting to see if my NHS Urologist will do me a referral . It will be abit of a nightmare travelling down to London every 4 weeks if i get pregnant especially when heavily pregnant. Im only small but had a massive belly with my daughter.
Just out of interest, where are you sourcing your IVF medications?
That’s annoying about the lack of NHS support but great to have found one that may be an opportunity! I’ll be keeping all crossed they have room for a small one as it isn’t cheap having to pay for this and ivf / meds etc. Even if it takes a few months, it’d be a great saving for the times they can see you on the NHS.
Meds wise we go through the Care recommended provider. I think they were called Stork fertility? We researched before and although you can get supermarkets to dispense the meds for cheaper, we struggled to find everything you needed like needles, free returns sharps bins etc so wasn’t worth the hassle in the end for us. Very pleasantly surprised to learn my FET is a bargain at about 1/3 of the price of my fresh though! Or about 50% if you include the intralipids, which is invoiced separately. Treating myself to some reflexology before I start and will still be under budget 🥳 that’s the type of maths I like x