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Mel
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Good Books (Adoption)

For Karen & anyone else interested in adoption.

There are loads of books, some more useful than others, some practical, some theory. Heres a list of the ones I've read during the adoption process:

Chester & Daisy Move On by Angela Lidster
Adopting a Child - A guide for people interested in adoption by Jenifer Lord
A Child's Journey through Placement by Vera Fahlberg
Nutmeg gets a Letter
Adoptive children Speaking
Staying Connected
Parenting the Adopted Child (Real Parents, Real Children)
Building the Bonds of Attachment
The Secrets of Successful Parenting
Approaching Fatherhood - a guide for adoptive dads and others by Paul May
Related by Adoption
The Adopter's Handbook by Amy Neil Salter
Blue-eyed Son, a story of an Adoption by Nicky Campbell
Damaged by Cathy Glass
An Adoption Diary by Maria James
First Steps in Parenting the Child Who Hurts, Tiddlers & Toddlers by Caroline Archer
Next Steps in Parenting the Child Who Hurts, Tykes & Teens by Caroline Archer

Some of these we were able to borrow during our prep course but most of them I have bought and will dip back into in the future. Our LA used to say A Child's Journey through Placement was the bible for adopters, they expected you to buy it. Now they strongly recommend you buy it. It is like a text book and can be very in depth but it has a lot of helpful points in it.

The Steps in Parenting a Child Who Hurts are full of practical advise, a lot of it common sense but will no doubt be reassuring to read and check you are doing the right things!

Damaged, Blue-eyed Son and An Adoption Diary are true stories, its good to read real life rather than just text book style. Damaged is a hard book to read, covers sexual abuse but it gave us an insite into how to deal with this issue if we were faced with it.

Approaching Fatherhood I bought for DH as I wanted something to focus on men for a change. My DH has been good and read a lot of the books but I know some men aren't as keen to read so a book just for them is great.

Happy reading!
Mel x
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Thanx Mel!! that is really useful! Wowee you have read alot of books! you are fully prepared for this arent you? x
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Mel
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Unfortunately I like to know everything I can about something so I read a lot! I was the same with ivf, my GP used to ask me questions that she hadn't been able to answer to other patients....when I told her we were going to look at adoption she said 'you'll be an expert in that just like you are in ivf'.
Mel x
After years of tx and heartache we are having a family via adoption. 2yr old DS moved in June 08, AO granted 18/12/08 - A Forever Family :) Dec 09 starting again for #2 :)May 10 approved for #2...Found our daughter, can't wait to meet her :)
Mel
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Diane,

These are good when starting out or thinking about it - not too expensive and easy to read.

Adopting a Child - A guide for people interested in adoption by Jenifer Lord
Approaching Fatherhood - a guide for adoptive dads and others by Paul May

Love
Mel x
After years of tx and heartache we are having a family via adoption. 2yr old DS moved in June 08, AO granted 18/12/08 - A Forever Family :) Dec 09 starting again for #2 :)May 10 approved for #2...Found our daughter, can't wait to meet her :)
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Thanks Mel x
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Thanks Mel

That is a right list. Bless you for letting us know the titles.

Love Sam
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Liz - here's the list of books for you.
After 7 years we are finally a family!
Found our two beautiful children.
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Thanks Diane
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bumping for angiebaby

Here you go hun.
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Mel
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I guess if I had to chose one book I'd go for A Child's Journey Through Placement as it covers so many issues including Life Story work.

Adoption UK is good, the quarterly(?) mags have some really useful topics in.

Love
Mel x
After years of tx and heartache we are having a family via adoption. 2yr old DS moved in June 08, AO granted 18/12/08 - A Forever Family :) Dec 09 starting again for #2 :)May 10 approved for #2...Found our daughter, can't wait to meet her :)
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Cheers mel, your a star!

Talked to Dh lastnight and he is going to help me with the room today, he agrees with you that I am a bit down about job and scared of the memories a declutter causes.

Will do it and then spend rest of week getting head into a a good book.

Elizabeth
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Bump for Drayton
4 x IVF last one resulted in a pregnancy, unfortunately a blighted ovum.
Natural pregnancy but miscarried.
Decided on Adoption
Now the proud mummy of a gorgeous little boy arrived home 27th Feb 2009!!
Tentatively thinking about no.2!
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Hi, which books are the best to start with??
There is so many don't know where to start

Thanks

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Mel
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Hi Nicola

I'd suggest the following as good starting points, they will give you an idea of what to expect and whether adoption is right for you.

Adopting a Child - A guide for people interested in adoption by Jenifer Lord
An Adoption Diary by Maria James
Approaching Fatherhood - a guide for adoptive dads and others by Paul May

If you have any questions feel free to ask.
Good luck
Mel x
After years of tx and heartache we are having a family via adoption. 2yr old DS moved in June 08, AO granted 18/12/08 - A Forever Family :) Dec 09 starting again for #2 :)May 10 approved for #2...Found our daughter, can't wait to meet her :)
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